It often doesn’t wear a mask. It’s often comfortable to be around these people because they are like you and me. They look like normal people, because they are real people. I’ve seen people I know and love commit emotionally and physically abusive misogynist acts. I honestly live in fear every single day. Since moving into a more populated city, my amount of anxiety has gone up. I always carry something on me, even if it’s the massive amount of keys I have swinging at my side. I occasionally get cat called. I’ve been followed, and actually chased by two men once in Torrington, CT. I’ve never ran harder in all of my life. I’ve been harassed. Name called… all for saying “No.” Oh, and God forbid you ever tell a male that you’re just “not interested.” You have to say “I have a boyfriend.” I was followed out of a bar because I said “I wasn’t interested” once. I had to wheel around and tell him I had a boyfriend. Thank God that the bartender saw what was happening too, because he was also trying to feel me up from under the bar. He couldn’t understand the concept of, “No, I’m seriously just not interested.” I went to that bar a total of three times. I don’t go to bars anymore. I don’t go to night clubs. I don’t attend raves. I don’t “ask for it.” All for this reason. My Grandfather also sexually abused me when I was too young to even comprehend what was going on. The day he died, I honestly rejoiced a little. This was the same man who made my Grandmother vote for the same president as him. Made her cook him his meals up until the very last day he went into a nursing home.
There’s something seriously wrong in this society. It effects me every single day in social media. This problem isn’t being addressed and being kicked underneath the rug.The scariest part is knowing that anyone at any given moment could turn on you if that was just and right from their own point of view. I think the problem truly lies in the fact that misogyny kills people. The thought process of ENTITLEMENT kills people.
I am also here stating that I know a lot of good men. Many who have come to my aid when another was being an absolute douche. I applaud you because you set the example for being a humanist. You set the example for being a compassionate human being… regardless of gender. There are men that are abused every day by their female counterparts. It’s a fact we can’t ignore, but it’s one that needs to be addressed regardless of finger pointing and name blaming. This shit has to stop. Abuse has to stop. /end rant.
The woman that raised me practically as her own passed away today. I’m happy to say that my Grandmother passed peacefully in her sleep.
It feels like a very large part of me is missing now.
You don’t have to get a job that makes others feel comfortable about what they perceive as your success. You don’t have to explain what you plan to do with your life. You don’t have to justify your education by demonstrating its financial rewards. You don’t have to maintain an impeccable credit score.
You have to pay your own electric bill. You have to be kind. You have to find people who love you truly and love them back with the same truth. But that’s all.”
|—|| Cheryl Strand (via flaccidprose)
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